and do they want to know?
What do you do if your friend has a child who is a bully and becoming so all round horrible (a terrible thing to feel about a child) that your husband wants them barred from the house?
You know this friend well and they only hear what they want to.
Is there any point tackling it head on? Or is it best to just phase them out of your life?
I know the child is neglected at home, has no routines and lives in squalor (only a very few people know this secret - from the outside they appear well looked after and as many hoarders live, are very focused on appearances so nobody finds out). No visitors can go to the house its so bad. How can this child experience normal childhood or friendships and learn how to not be a bully? Am I taking it out on the child by cutting off contact to protect my kids?
My kids should come first, but should I attempt to help this child or protect my kids from him?